Did you know you don’t have to lay on your back to give birth?
Even though almost no one says, “I want to lay on my back to give birth”, that’s how the majority of women in North America – probably other places too – do it. Why? Because even if they’re in a more comfortable position, they’re told, “OK it’s time to have your baby – get on your back.”
I’ve seen many people give birth on all hands & knees, squatting, on their side or even standing. Midwives and many doctors know how to catch babies in any position. It’s just a habit for the staff to tell their patients to get on their back.
How can you avoid this uncomfortable and ineffective position?
- Don’t get into the position in the first place. It’s hard to get out of it once you’re there.
- Just say NO!!! Or say nothing but give a good emphatic head shake.
- When you get bugged over and over, keep saying NO and shaking your head!!
Sounds obvious but saying NO and continuing to refuse is not that easy. Check out my video about the Tend & Befriend Stress Response that makes it so difficult to not just do what we’re told during labour.
Here are a few tips:
- We do the thing we’re used to when we’re in a stressful or vulnerable situation – which describes birth for many people. Practise getting on your bed on “all 4-s”. Every night, just get on your hands and knees and do a few little stretches – even 5 seconds – then lay down. It will start to feel normal to get on a bed without laying down.
- During labour, crawl up onto the bed and take positions that feel good for you. No one will wrestle you to your back. At least I sure hope not – if that happens, it’s assault.
- Ensure you have a birth companion who can advocate for you and help you find your voice and your best position.
- Avoid getting on your back for cervical checks when the birth is imminent, as it’s hard to get out of that position. If you know your baby is moving down well maybe there’s no need to check. Many MCP know how to check a cervix in a variety of positions.
- If you have an epidural and are confined to bed, there are still many positions available to you.
You don’t need to ask permission to assume positions of your choice! However, if there’s a medical complication that requires certain interventions or positions, then it may be safest for you to give birth on your back – but those are not common.
Of course if it feels good to be on your back, then great – go for it! It’s very uncommon but possible. In my dreamy, ideal birth world, everyone would be in the position that feels best for them.
I’m AE, prenatal educator and doula. You can find all kinds of information about classes, pregnancy, birth and postpartum on my sites listed below. I wish you an empowering birth. Thanks for watching.